I’m a self-help junkie. I have been for as long as I can remember. When I was a teenager my mum was super supportive of my wee addiction and I can remember her letting me browse the self-help aisle at the bookshop and graciously purchasing whatever it was I decided was important that day. I was incredibly lucky to have a mum who was so willing to encourage my quest for inner knowing and personal discovery. Little wonder I then went on to become a psychologist. The desire for an understanding of the human psyche and condition has been a part of me forever.

So in the last 18 or so years I have managed to read quite a number of self-help books. I keep them on the shelves in my office as a reminder of all the beautiful knowledge I have soaked up over the years. Recently, I have had a couple of friends ask me which are my all-time favorites. Even though there have been many, there are 4 that immediately come to mind. I’m thinking if my friends want to know, some of my lovely readers might well appreciate the information as well.

So in the order I first read them, here is a quick summary of my four favorite self-help books:


If Life Is A Game, These Are the Rules. –  Cherie Carter-Scott

This was one of the first self-help books I can ever remember reading. I must have been about 15 at time. It is a very easy read and filled with information that helped me frame the way I looked at life. Her wisdom is simple, yet for me was very reassuring. I felt at the time that it gave me some guideposts on how to navigate this crazy thing called life.

Taken from the Amazon summary of the book, the 10 rules for being human from Cherie Carter-Scott are as follows:

  1.  You will receive a body.
  2. You will be presented with lessons.
  3. There are no mistakes, only lessons.
  4. Lessons are repeated until learned.
  5. Learning does not end.
  6. “There” is no better than “here.”
  7. Others are only mirrors of you.
  8. What you make of your life is up to you.
  9.  All the answers lie inside of you.
  10. You will forget all of this at birth.

She has written a book called If Love is a Game, These are the Rules. If love is a priority for you, it is also brilliant. It was this book that encouraged me to write out a list of all the attributes my dream man would have. I am of course now married to that exact man.



A New Earth: Awakening To Your Life’s Purpose Eckhart Tolle

This book was given to me to read by a boyfriend when I was about 24 years old. It was a period in my life when I was about as spiritually disconnected as I have ever been. I was certainly not in touch with the yearnings of my heart or soul and was lost in the chaos of my world. This book stopped me in my tracks and made me begin to wake-up to my reality. Oprah made a huge fuss about this book and ran her first virtual LifeClass around it in 2008.

If you give this book the time and energy it deserves, it will really help you look at your life, and the world, through a different lens. As a quick summary, he teaches you to disconnect from your Ego, and start recognizing your true-self as the observer behind the voice that is constantly rattling on in your head. Eckhart Tolle has also written another famous book The Power of Now. Personally, A New Earth is by far my favorite out of the two.



Soul Lessons & Soul Purpose – Sonia Choquette

This is very spiritual book that speaks right to the soul. I must have read this book in about 2009 and originally when I picked it up and saw it was a “channeled work from the Emissaries from the Third Ray” I almost left it on the bookshelf at the store. That wasn’t something that was inside my comfort zone at the time! I took it home however and loved every single page. It is set out like a guidebook with short lessons and purpose points. As a result, it can be read easily for 5 mins at time, yet you can also sit and devour all the knowledge page after page if you wish.

So many of her lessons resonated with me at a deep level. She mentions things such as “Do Not Fear Death” and “Enjoy the Sunshine”. This book is set-out as a guidebook to help you connect with your spirit and raise your energy. On that note, I must dig it out again and re-read it! It’s been awhile.



The Gifts of Imperfection: let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are – Brene Brown

Brene Brown speaks to the scientist/practitioner in me. I’m trained as a psychologist and I was taught to be very research focused and critical in my thinking. I’d argue that is sometimes a benefit but in many cases it is not. Brene Brown has a PhD in social work and this book is based on her research of people.

In this book she addresses the ten guideposts to Wholehearted Living. She believes wholeheartedness comes from embracing our vulnerability and owning our worthiness. It was this book that finally helped me realize that my ongoing issue with people-pleasing and wanting to be liked stemmed from the lack of a deep sense of inner knowing that – I am enough. Just as I am, I am enough. This book is about owning your authenticity and allowing yourself to be the messy, complex human that you are.



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I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Have you read any of these books? Were any of them life-changing for you to?

Hi I’m Kate Snowise, and Thrive.How is my business-baby. I’m a kickass Life & Well-Being Coach who helps people who want the good stuff out of life, get it. I have an MSc in Psychology (the happy kind of psychology that concentrates on what is right with you). I offer individual coaching and personality assessment to help people clarify their thinking, grow into their potential, reconnect with themselves and regain balance.  Click here to learn more.

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